Healing Resentment and Anger: A Spiritual Guide to Inner Peace
Resentment is defined by Merriam-Webster as
“a feeling of indignant displeasure or persistent ill will at something regarded as a wrong, insult, or injury.”
Does it ever feel like your resentment is here to stay? You know it’s not serving you but it lingers. If it feels that way, you’d be correct in that it can feel so dense in our bodies and minds, thus, so hard to work through. I have felt at times in my life that there was no way through.
As midlife women, we often carry a heavy load of resentment and anger, whether it be toward our partners, ourselves, or even our upbringing. It can be a difficult and ongoing journey to work through these emotions and find inner peace, but with the help of spiritual practices, it is possible.
In this blog post, we will explore the root causes of resentment and anger and provide practical tips on how to heal and release them for a more fulfilling life.
When we feel triggers and reactions arise within, we no longer have to suppress how we feel. You can provide a new voice of compassion, connection to yourself, and letting yourself know that everything is transformable!
Here are some aspects to consider:
1) Recognize the source of your resentment or anger
Take some time to reflect on what is fueling these emotions. Is it a past relationship that ended badly, a feeling of being undervalued, or even unresolved trauma?
By identifying the root cause, you can begin to release it from your system.
Personally, when I reflect back on my mom and the frustration she felt in her life, I know that she didn’t have any tools to help her understand her waves of emotion. I believe she carried a lot of resentment because of unexpressed emotions. We all carry on these patterns if left unexamined. They may show up in how we feel or the type of relationships we find ourselves in.
2) Practice forgiveness for yourself
Holding on to resentment and anger only hurts us in the long run. To find inner peace, we must learn to forgive ourselves and those who have wronged us. This can be a challenging practice, but with intention and commitment, it is achievable. Remember, forgiveness does not mean condoning bad behavior, but rather releasing ourselves from the emotional burden that comes with holding onto anger.
3) Honor the emotion coming to you
It’s no longer time to suppress or hide your anger and feelings of resentment. By befriending these emotions and not making them bad or wrong, but knowing they are here to share valuable information with you, can shift you into healing.
4) Seek the support of a therapist or a coach
If you find it challenging to release these emotions on your own, consider seeking the guidance of a therapist or coach. Much of my work is focused on integrating the emotional experiences in order to fully understand them and have compassion for yourself.
5) Practice self-compassion
Healing from resentment and anger takes time and patience. It is important to offer yourself love and kindness during this process. Practice mindfulness and self-care, such as getting enough sleep, eating nutritious foods, and engaging in activities that bring you joy. Add in a compassionate dialogue in the form of “I see you”, “your experience is valuable”, and “That sounds difficult” can go a long way as you forge new connections within.
As midlife women, we have the power to release resentment and anger and find inner peace through spiritual practices. By recognizing the source of these emotions, practicing forgiveness, revering all emotions, seeking support, and practicing self-compassion, we can let go of the emotional weight that has been holding us back and live a more fulfilling life. Remember to be patient and kind with yourself during this process, and trust that with time and commitment, healing and transformation are possible.
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Hello!
I’m Maureen Spielman, a conscious life coach.
With a mind, body, and spirit approach to healing, I will be your guide to a new way of living. My job is to provide a compassionate container of support to help you connect to your deepest truths, honor your greatest desires, and let go of anything preventing you from lasting joy.
